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people believe that only very disturbed people seek counseling, so
your referral might be interpreted as a comment on the severity of
the
problem. Reassure the student that therapists at the Counseling Center
work with people with a wide range of concerns. Problems need not
reach crisis proportions for students to benefit from professional
help. In fact, it is much easier to work on problems if they are
addressed before they reach crisis level. Normalizing the process
of seeking help may be especially helpful for international students
whose countries may not have similar views of psychological counseling.
Reluctant students might also be relieved to know that they can speak
with a therapist on a one-time basis without making a commitment
to ongoing therapy. Furthermore, any contact and information shared
by the student is kept strictly confidential within Counseling Center
and will not be disclosed to parents, faculty, other University departments,
or even you, except with the student's written permission. Finally,
it is important to acknowledge, validate and discuss the student's
real fears and concerns about seeking help. It takes considerable
courage to face oneself and acknowledge one's limitations.
In some cases, you may find that the student has already sought
counseling services at the Counseling Center, or elsewhere, and
was unsatisfied with the experience. There are many reasons why
counseling
may
not be successful in a given situation. Please encourage the student
to consider giving counseling another try, perhaps with a different
counselor.
While it is important to care about the emotional well-being of
students, we cannot make their decisions for them, and counseling
is always a personal choice. Occasionally even your best efforts
to encourage a student to seek counseling will be unsuccessful.
If the student resists referral and you remain uncomfortable with
the situation, contact Counseling Center at 515-2423 to discuss
your concern.
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