Each year there are cases of dating violence, rape and sexual assault on college campuses. The perpetuator is at fault if such an act occurs. To help keep dating a safe, positive experience, the following information may be helpful.

• Be assertive. You have the right to set limits, including sexual limits.
• Communicate and discuss your desires and limits, clearly and firmly early in a relationship.
• Negotiate with your partner if your desires differ. Neither party should feel their desires are disregarded.
• Avoid using alcohol or other drugs that may dull your senses.
• Trust your instincts. If a situation feels pressured, uncomfortable and/or unsafe, it probably is.
• Pay attention to what is happening around you. Do not allow your self to become isolated or put in a vulnerable situation.
• Don’t accept drinks from strangers or leave your drink unattended.
• Talk before you act. Never assume any manner of dress or non-verbal behavior means a person is available for sex. Seek a verbal “yes”.
• Never assume. Sex may have been consented to in the past but it does not mean you can assume it applies to the current situation.
• Group outings are popular. Make sure you leave with your friends and do not leave a friend behind.
• "No" means "No." If you are turned down for sex, do not take it personally and respect the person's wishes.

Any manipulation or force to have more sexual interaction than the other partner wants is against one's human rights and is a potential criminal act. If a rape or sexual assault happens, it is extremely important you receive immediate help. At NC State University, we have a 24 hour rape Survivor Advocate help line, 618-RAPE(7273). The volunteers can assist you to obtain any confidential assistance from, police, medical staff, legal support or others.

For more detailed information on acquaintance rape and safe dating practices, come to the office of Health Promotion, 2100 Student Health Center or call 515-9355.

Information adapted from "Is Dating Dangerous" published by the American College Health Association, 1997.