Answer the following questions with a “yes” or “no” response to help determine if you are ready for the personal responsibility that comes with being sexually active.

1. I don't feel guilty about sex.
2. I feel comfortable about my present level of involvement.
3. I am confident I will not be humiliated.
4. I am confident my reputation will not be hurt.
5. I nor my partner are pressuring one another for sex.
6. I can discuss and agree on effective methods of contraception and protection from sexually transmitted diseases with my partner.
7. I can share the details, responsibilities, and costs of the use of the contraceptive or safer sex techniques.
8. I can discuss the potential for contracting or transmitting sexually transmitted diseases.
9. I have discussed and agreed with my partner what I will do if conception or disease transmission occurs.
10. I am not trying to prove my love for the other person.
11. I am not trying to increase my self-worth.
12. I am not trying to prove I am mature.
13. I am not trying to show I can attract a sexual partner.
14. I am not trying to get attention, affection, or love.
15. I am not trying to rebel against parents, society, etc.
16. Sex is an expression of my current feelings rather than an attempt to improve a poor relationship or one that is "growing cold."

If you answered "NO" to any of the above questions you should reconsider thinking about becoming sexually active.

Abstinence or "no risk intimacy" is the best option if you have concerns or feel insecure about being sexually active. It is also the only 100% effective method of preventing pregnancy or the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Don't lose yourself in the heat of the moment.